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Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - MetaSeraphim - 2011-05-30
Baklava Wrote:Of course. The most I'd probably say is like "I think you're a really sweet girl, and I like you" or something of the sort. Stop me if even that seems too far, though.
Anyway, I wanted to take her to this little sushi bar downtown, it's nothing fancy, the atmosphere is mostly laid back and friendly and the food is delicious.
Do you guys think it'd be a little too much to offer to pay for her as well? I don't mind it at all and I'd gladly pay for her, but, like some other people have said, it might seem like I'm coming on too strong at such an early point and I'm just like.
Sounds like you already have a pretty good idea in mind. I don't think what you plan on saying is coming on too strong, and paying for her sounds alright as well.
Best of luck to you sir.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Sarah - 2011-05-30
Oh, and yes, absolutely pay for her. And sushi sounds good. Typically I would recommend a burger or something fast like that but sushi has become common-place so it's not fancy.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Dual - 2011-05-30
Southperry: Wingman Edition
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - BlueRuin - 2011-05-30
DualReaver Wrote:Southperry: Wingman Edition
That's cute. It should be a real thing.
Good luck, Baklava. Sounds like you got things under control.^_^
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Baklava - 2011-05-31
Sarah Wrote:It's a precedent no one should want: that you're willing to go out and spend big amounts of money on her whenever you can. It also sets a romantic precedent that you can't keep up forever. If you keep it casual and fun, that's something you can keep doing.
That's true. I wasn't really aiming for huge and romantic but I guess that's the kind of impression it could send off to her.
MetaSeraphim Wrote:Sounds like you already have a pretty good idea in mind. I don't think what you plan on saying is coming on too strong, and paying for her sounds alright as well.
Best of luck to you sir.
Oh that's good.
I'm going to ask her when I meet up with her tomorrow. Hope it goes well! :3
Thanks, all. c:
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Kunagisa - 2011-05-31
I voted before reading the post. Go for dinner. When I read "dinner as first date" I assumed it was someone you were just getting to know, but since you already know her well and your time with her is running short hen just go for it. You want to make it clear that you're interested. That doesn't mean you should profess your feelings outright to her and bring presents and flowers to the dinner and book some fancy restaurant. Just keep it cool. You just want to put it on the table. If you let her know you're interested, she may even start getting interested in you even if she wasn't before.
If you think it goes smoothly, you could always try keeping in contact with her over summer as well. If you don't already have her information to contact her online, it's not awkward to just ask, especially since classes are coming to an end.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Kalovale - 2011-06-02
Absolutely no experience so I'll just be here to root you on spiritually.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Felicitates - 2011-06-02
Fucking dinner.
It's the last two weeks of school and it leaves a beautiful impression with the girl.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Baklava - 2011-06-02
I couldn't ask her last night. She seemed so stressed with classes and stuff, I didn't want to annoy her more with my petty little weirdoness,
The one chance I got, I just sorta locked up and said "WHAT ARE YOU DOING THIS WEEKEND" and she said "Studying probably" and all I said was "OH OKAY..." She ended up staying up until 7 AM working. :\
I'm just going to message her on Facebook or text her or something and tell her...
I suck lol.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Sarah - 2011-06-02
Man up. Don't call her or text her, ask her in person.
It might be a relief for her if you ask. At the very least it'll be a break from all of the school related stress.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Dual - 2011-06-02
Sarah Wrote:Man up. Don't call her or text her, ask her in person.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Baklava - 2011-06-02
Sarah Wrote:Man up. Don't call her or text her, ask her in person.
It might be a relief for her if you ask. At the very least it'll be a break from all of the school related stress.
The project's done and I probably won't meet up with her anymore since it's turned in through online submission.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Tay - 2011-06-02
CHRIS I BELIEVE IN YOU.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Baklava - 2011-06-04
Well I asked her, and she said no 'cause she wants to focus on studying this weekend.
Ah well, if anything, I'm just going to ask her to meet me before we leave so I can give her a gift...in the form of a small pink bunny plush.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - VirgilDiablo - 2011-06-04
no "talking" phase? the odds are pretty stacked against you my friend, especially considering girls typically aren't going to want to start anything if they're either about to leave for college, or go home. unless you're going to be able to physically carry on a relationship over the break, you might just want to build a rapport with her over the summer, if she's coming back the next few months.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - >Pineapple - 2011-06-04
I say ask her to a casual lunch, since it seems more like a friend thing than anything. Talk to her more, get to know her better in a friendly, less romantic way. Depending on how it goes, ask for a dinner date later on.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - White - 2011-06-04
Dude, not to be rude but grow some balls. Women appreciate confidence and it sounds like you're ready to fall over in a gentle breeze. If you can't see her in person, then at the very least call her. Don't do this stupid texting business or leaving a message on her facebook wall, that's complete garbage.
I asked my girlfriend about this and she said dinner sounds like the better plan, and I agree. Your location for the dinner sounds great and I think it fits the mood perfectly, sushi is fantastic. Good luck man! Be bold enough and don't just wimp out. You want this girl, let her know!
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Baklava - 2011-06-04
White Wrote:Dude, not to be rude but grow some balls. Women appreciate confidence and it sounds like you're ready to fall over in a gentle breeze. If you can't see her in person, then at the very least call her. Don't do this stupid texting business or leaving a message on her facebook wall, that's complete garbage.
I asked my girlfriend about this and she said dinner sounds like the better plan, and I agree. Your location for the dinner sounds great and I think it fits the mood perfectly, sushi is fantastic. Good luck man! Be bold enough and don't just wimp out. You want this girl, let her know!
I called her, just fyi.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Felicitates - 2011-06-04
Baklava Wrote:I called her, just fyi.
Calling =/= Growing balls
In fact calling seems like a very baby way to get in touch with her. You're pretty much only achieving the lowest level of social interaction.
Although it depends what you said on the call.
Casual lunch or all-out dinner for a first date? - Baklava - 2011-06-04
Delicae Wrote:Calling =/= Growing balls
In fact calling seems like a very baby way to get in touch with her. You're pretty much only achieving the lowest level of social interaction.
Although it depends what you said on the call.
She lives off campus, and I wasn't going to get on a bus for 30-45 minutes just to go to her house and bother her.
I really don't appreciate it when people only tell me what I'm doing wrong. I'm doing the best I can -- I'm not exactly the sexiest, most confident guy in the world so things like this just aren't easy for me, at least as easy as everyone makes it seem.
I expected at least a few of you would understand how that feels.
I asked her like I said, if she wanted to go out for dinner with me sometime this weekend.